I Know It is Long but This Guy is Being a Jerk! Help/advice is Much Appreciated! (10 Pts & Will Answer Yours)!?

There is this guy that I’ve known for a while. We wanted to date but we are attending different colleges our freshman year. In August, he is switching over to my college. We have been on one date. Before this date though, he stood me up. Said he had to work and posted a status at the time our date was supposed to be saying how he had fun getting ice cream with a friend. I was pissed but eventually forgave him. When we finally went on a date, we went to the movies. It seemed like he was interested cause he held my hand, put his arm around me, kept pushing his arm against mine, and played footsie. But there were signs that concerned me. He didn’t pay. He asked if I wanted him to pay or if I wanted to do two separate tickets. I said it didn’t matter and he said two separate tickets would be better cause he’s broke. He also didn’t walk me to my car. We just went our separate ways at the theater entrance. Anyway, he found a gf at his school. They weren’t together for very long. We had planned a date for pizza and movie at my place and he seemed unsure like he was going to back out again. Sure enough he did. He claimed he had to take a friend to the airport. I posted a fb status saying, “One day you’ll come back wanting me but guess what? I won’t be there. I hope she’s worth it.” He texted me saying hey directly after that. So it’s like he doesn’t want to lose me and he gets jealous when I talk to other guys (long story) but yet he treats me horribly. I don’t get him! Then on Wednesday (Jan 18) night, we were talking and I said how I’m not his second best. He said if I’m feeling that way, he has a while to change my mind (meaning since he won’t be here till August). I said how he’ll have to be pretty convincing. He said he will try. And I said, “you mean like how you tried to show up last time?” I get no response. The next morning, he texted me saying he fell asleep. Idk if that’s true or not. I was in class and said I have classes all morning and told him I have a break at 12:15, if he wants to talk then. He said that works. At 12:15, I get no text from him so around 12:30 I text him saying hey. No response back. I have my friend text him under her phone speaking in Spanish and he responds saying “who is this?” and talks to her for a while trying to figure out who it was. He has no idea that was my friend.

So Jan 23, he texted me saying “Sooo I saw somebody here today that looks exactly like you…and I was so confused.” Here’s how the convo went from there:

Me: Couldn’t be me. I’m one of a kind
Him: I know
Me: Doesn’t seem like you do
Him: Haha why’s that?
Me: I’m not going to explain it to you. The way you have been treating me lately speaks volumes
Him: Wait what???
Me: I know play dumb. Act like you’ve done nothing wrong. Guess you haven’t noticed but I removed you as a friend on fb a few days ago and I was so close to blocking your number as well
Him: If you want me to leave you alone I can
Me: Idk what I want honestly. I’m so pissed at you right now
Him: Whatever I did, I didn’t mean to
Me: Oh really?? You didn’t mean to not show up that day cause you had to supposedly pick a friend up at the airport? And apparently you didn’t mean to not text me back that day after we already agreed to talk at that time. Not even an explanation of why you never texted me back. I’ve just had it and am literally at my breaking point with you! I am so extremely close to walking away for good and never looking back! So if you don’t want that to happen, I suggest you work pretty hard to fix it!
Him: Look, I’ll let you go and hopefully be happy, but if you want to talk…tell me
Me: I want an explanation and an apology. I really don’t think that’s too much to ask for. If I get that, maybe I’ll stay
Him: Look, I know I’ve been an asshole, and I have mistreated you a lot. I did it all without realizing it. I’m sorry.
Me: Ok so tell me why you never showed up that day or texted me back. I want to know
Him: What day?
Me: The day we planned the movie and pizza at my place and you got out of it by saying you had to take a friend to the airport or something like that.
(No response)
Yeah exactly you have no explanation
Him: Obviously it didn’t send. I said I had to take tori to the airport
Me: Mmk and the day you didn’t text me back?
Him: I have no idea. I can’t recall that at all
Me: Well I can. It was Thursday. 12:15 remember?
Him: I probably went to lunch and left my phone…I have class now so I have to go.
Me: K

We haven’t talked since. What is wrong with him?????!!! Am I just overreacting or is he being an ***? Cause I’m sick of being treated like this!! He can’t even give me a decent apology. He is acting clueless and nonchalant about it. It is just so frustrating!! And then to top it all off, he lied to me and said he left his phone. That’s not true cause he texted my friend all afternoon trying to figure out who she was.

I think you're overreacting AND he's being an ***. A mixture of both.

Just stop talking to him for awhile. Let him go on with his life, you go on with yours, and in August when he comes back, let him come to you. You know a guy likes you and cares about you if he comes to you. So when he comes back then, let him make first contact. NEVER initiate contact with an asshole, because then they feel like they've got you around their little finger and use you as an ego boost.

Basically, just let him have a taste of what life without you is like, and if he doesn't like it he'll make more of an effort with you. If he does initiate contact and you two plan a date again and he stands you up again, write him off. Short of him being in the hospital or a family emergency, he should definitely put you way up on his list of priorities. Good luck, let me know how it goes.
-Rachel

ps. I'm bipolar but I don't act like that around people. Bipolarity effects what mood you're in, not how you feel about people. It doesn't make your personality and feelings do a 180. That is multiple personality disorder.